A card from Fair Play by Eve Rodsky
Thank You Notes
Why would the dreaded task of writing thank-you notes be considered Magic? Because thank-you notes are an opportunity to express gratitude to people who inspire you to feel it. If you have family dinner with friends, you might send an email letting them know how wonderful it was to spend time together. When a colleague delivers a huge bag of hand-me-downs for your kids, that thoughtfulness merits a note. Imagine a life where sleep-deprived postpartum moms are not saddled with writing thank-you notes for baby gifts. That can be your reality, as either partner is capable of CPEing this card.
Holding this card means owning all three
Conception
You want to express gratitude
Planning
- Obtaining appropriate information
- Creating address list and updating addresses if needed
Execution
- Printing labels or addressing envelopes
- Purchasing stamps (or ask “Mail” cardholder to provide)
- Applying labels/stamps
- Mailing cards
Suggested Minimum Standard of Care
Did the cards arrive in the desired mailboxes at the appropriate time?
A starting point. You and your partner agree the real standard together, and the holder meets it without reminders.
Holding it well
- The holder owns all of it: noticing, planning and doing. No “just tell me what to do.”
- Agree the Minimum Standard of Care together, then let the holder meet it their way.
- Not working? Bring it to the weekly check-in and re-deal it. Don’t take it back mid-week.
Put this card on your table
Deal it, agree its standard, and see who holds what. Free.