A card from Fair Play by Eve Rodsky
Self-Care (Player 1)
Caregiving suit Happiness TrioOne per player · Player 1
Each of you gets a self-care card regardless of how many children and other responsibilities you have. For some, a daily multivitamin, a good book, and a hot bath fit the bill. Others may have weekly therapy or wellness appointments, and also set aside regular time to exercise. No guilt or shame allowed. Take this important time for you and allow your partner to do the same.
Holding this card means owning all three
C
Conception
You need to take care of yourself
P
Planning
- Determining self-care plan, possibly including the following:
- Nutrition/supplements
- Exercise routine
- Doctor and dental appointments (annual physical and mammogram, bloodwork, dental exam/cleaning, ophthalmology, GI, other specialists)
- Medications
- Massage/acupuncture
- Meditation/quiet time/relaxing (TV)/reading
- Baths
E
Execution
- Showing up for and fulfilling your commitments
Suggested Minimum Standard of Care
Do each of you feel reasonably well?
A starting point. You and your partner agree the real standard together, and the holder meets it without reminders.
Holding it well
- This card is dealt to each of you. Nobody holds it for their partner.
- The holder owns all of it: noticing, planning and doing. No “just tell me what to do.”
- Agree the Minimum Standard of Care together, then let the holder meet it their way.
- Not working? Bring it to the weekly check-in and re-deal it. Don’t take it back mid-week.
Put this card on your table
Deal it, agree its standard, and see who holds what. Free.